“Happy Holidays!” “Happy Hanukkah!” “Merry Christmas!” The commercialism of holidays expects us to be joyful, happy, and merry, but “the most wonderful time of the year” can turn into the most stressful time of year.
Did you know that December is National Stress-Free Family Holiday Month? You might be thinking to yourself, “how?” Between holiday season travel, shopping, the crowds that accompany them, hosting dinners, feeling alone, grieving the loss of a loved one, financial problems, and family tension, the holiday season may come along with significant stress. For many, the holidays can cause serious anxiety and depression. Keep reading for ways to cope with this holiday season.
Ways to manage holiday expectations
- Keep in mind that holidays are not always about buying gifts. They can be about creating unforgettable memories with your loved ones that are much more memorable than a gift.
- Create a realistic budget. Think ahead about the total amount of money you can spend this holiday season. Make sure you consider food, decorations, travel expenses, and gifts.
- Come up with a plan. Don’t do your errands all at once. Make a schedule that spreads your errands out, so you don’t feel overwhelmed with an overload of tasks to complete.
- Delegate tasks. Ask others for help when possible. Ask if someone can take the chicken out of the oven, fold laundry, or pick up a Walmart order. Besides, asking someone else for help may make them feel needed.
- Take a break from social media. We often see others posting highlights of great dinners, fun holiday parties, or expensive gifts. Small glimpses of other’s lives can be deceiving and lead us to feel more pressure.
- If you want to avoid crowds, find times that stores are less crowded. Typically, shopping centers are less crowded on weekday’s and weekday evenings. If this is feasible with your schedule, shop at these times versus the weekends.
- Accept holiday invitations to events you are genuinely excited to attend. Politely decline those that cause stress.
- Make time for yourself! Take a moment to take a couple of deep breaths. Make sure you recharge and are kind to yourself too.
Mental health over the holidays
Stress, anxiety, and depression around the holiday season is real and normal. The stressors that come along with the holiday season can create a perfect storm for increased mental health symptoms and setbacks. Again, the good news is there are resources to help you manage the holiday season. Whether you would prefer to manage your mental health on your own or seek professional support, know that there are options for both.
For starters, you may seek individual or group therapy at the Carruth Center. Seeking professional support is a way to proactively manage your mental health leading up to, during, and following the holiday’s. The Carruth Center offers individual counseling, psychiatry, and therapy groups.
Please know that The Carruth Center will be closed 12/23/19 through 1/1/2020. If you are experiencing a psychological crisis, the Carruth Center is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week at 304-293-4431. You can also use the Crisis Text Line. Text WVU to 741741 available 24/7 for free, confidential help.
Tips to tend to your mental health on your own:
Exercise. Exercising releases endorphins. Endorphins are chemicals in the brain that interact with opiate receptors in the brain to reduce our perception of pain. Releasing endorphins (exercise) lessens the symptoms of depression.
Don’t isolate yourself from others- this only increases feelings of loneliness. Spend time with company that you enjoy.
Implement self-care into your schedule. Take a hot shower. Light a candle. Scrub your face and wash your hair. Read an enjoyable book. Watch your favorite movie or tv show. Listen to your favorite music. Do what it takes to feed your soul.
Grief over the holidays
It is okay to feel this way. Acknowledging your feelings and working through them is healthy.
Don’t feel pressured to follow through with family traditions. Sometimes family traditions with the absence of a loved one is too painful and hard to manage, and that’s okay.
Again, take care of yourself. Cope in healthy ways (exercise, be around good company, take a hot bath).
Keep in mind, it’s not all sad. The anticipation of the sadness and pain can be stressful, but the holidays provide an opportunity for healing and remembering warm memories of past holidays. The holiday season will have sad parts and wonderful parts. Just remember, you are not alone. There’s somebody else out there going through a similar experience as you. You might even feel up to lending a kind hand or listening ears to somebody else.
Volunteering during the holidays
Chloe is a first-year student in the Master of Social Work program at West Virginia University. She is an advanced supervised trainee at the Carruth Center, where she provides individual counseling services to students. Chloe received her Bachelor of Social Work at West Virginia University as well. Outside of Carruth, she works with grieving children and their families at a local grief center.